Solving the Human Sex Problem! [28]

Playboys & playgirls in Mexico.


Everywhere you look there are powerful images and signs of the dysfunction of cultures—much of which could be eliminated by the creation of a practical solution for the sexual needs of males and females beginning at the age of puberty.

One way that would resolve or reduce the problem of providing males and females with sexual partners when they need or want them would be to formally and legally allow unattached men and women to pro-vide sexual services to those who need or want them on a commercial basis.

Licenses could be issued to men and women who are not married and above the age of consent, to divorcees, and to widows and to widowers—a solution that would dramatically reduce the buildup of sexual energy in both males and females, and provide gainful employment for millions of people.

What a boon to the service industry this would be! And just image the income from licensing fees… which could quickly reach the level of government income from tobacco, alcohol and other drugs.

Sexual potency is at its peak in both males and females from the age of puberty to around the mid-20s, and expecting and sometimes forcing them to refrain from sexual intercourse until they get married is both irrational and harmful in many ways.

The solution to this real problem is simply to formally and officially allow young unmarried males and females to have intimate relationships as soon as they are old enough to take the responsibility necessary for them to avoid pregnancies and venereal diseases.

These practices would eliminate most of the sexual stress that afflicts younger unmarried males and females; it would help prevent these same people from growing up to have a variety of harmful sexual hang-ups; it would also eliminate most of the obsession with sexual titillation that now passes as entertainment… and it could help teens become more responsible adults in their sexual relationships.

The facts are, of course, that young males and fe-males in some countries, including the United States, are already creating this new paradigm on their own, with or without the approval of their parents, other adults and institutions of whatever kind.

Still another suggestion is that married men and women could agree to be free to have civilized, harmonious affairs with other partners without negative effect on their marriage—something that would no doubt roil the “me-only” ego of many males. But the positive benefits of this customs could be miraculous. Men who didn’t want to lose their wives would be better husbands. Women who didn’t want to lose their husbands would be better wives.

Surprising to some, perhaps, this trend is also well underway. Surveys show that around one-third of American married men and women over the age of 40 have had extra-marital affairs, and a larger percentage think it is a good idea.

Of course, people who did not have spouses should be free to have mutually consensual intimate relationships with anyone of their choice—also already a growing reality in the U.S. and elsewhere.

If these practices were followed, there would be far less sexual frustration among both men and women, the tendency for male violence would be dramatically reduced, and the world would be a saner, happier place.

The time is long past when religions and other institutions that don’t work in the first place should be eliminated as the controllers of the sexual behavior of human beings. There is nothing sacred or profane about sex. It is simply the way life works, and when this natural process is denied or perverted problems are inevitable.

***This blog was excerpted from my book: THE PLAGUE OF MALE DOMINANCE – The Cause and Cure!, available in ebook and printed formats from


Boyé Lafayette De Mente has been involved with Asia since the late 1940s as a member of a U.S. intelligence agency, journalist and editor. He is a graduate of Jōchi University in Tokyo, Japan and Thunderbird School of Global Management in Glendale, Arizona, USA. In addition to books on the business practices, social behavior and languages of China, Japan, Korea and Mexico he has written extensively about the moral collapse of the U.S. along with books on his home state of Arizona. To see a full list of his books go to: Recent books include: CHINA Understanding & Dealing with the Chinese Way of Doing Business; JAPAN Understanding & Dealing with the NEW Japanese Way of Doing Business; AMERICA’S FAMOUS HOPI INDIANS; ARIZONA’S LORDS OF THE LAND [the Navajos] and SPEAK JAPANESE TODAY – A Little Language Goes a Long Way!


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